Teaching Children with Down Syndrome about Their Bodies,
Boundaries, and Sexuality
A Guide for Parents and Professionals
Terri Couwenhoven, M.S.
"Terri Couwenhoven is a certified sexuality educator who works with individuals with intellectual disabilities and is a mom to two daughters, one with with Down syndrome.
emphasis on helping children develop healthy sexuality, Ms. Couwenhoven has
written a wonderful guide that not only explores the myths about sexuality and
people with disabilities but also provides gentle prompts for teaching a child
about his or her body and the changes to expect. There's a chapter devoted to
helping parents identify why they have a difficult time teaching their child
about sexuality, which provides guidelines for how much information to provide
at specific times. Other chapters include excellent activities for teaching
children about social skills and friendships, dating, healthy relationships and
safety, accompanied by visuals parents can use to teach their children about
their bodies. And, don't forget to read through the resource section with
excellent supplementary materials for parents, children, teens, self-advocates
-Newsline, Spring 2008, Federation for Children with Special Needs
"At the NDSC convention in Kansas City, I attended the sharing session for mothers of 9-11 year-olds. As we shared questions and concerns about social skills and puberty, several mothers enthusiastically referred to lessons they had learned at Terri Couwenhoven's workshop, earlier that day. I eagerly awaited this forthcoming book and I was not disappointed.
There's a quote in the book about how one mother taught her son that 'sex' was between his legs, but 'sexuality' was between his ears. In addition to information that you might expect about the body and physical changes during puberty, the book also covers teaching about privacy, social skills for healthy relationships, friendships and dating and social emotional development.
The book is
full of stories and real-life examples, which make the book easy-to-read.
There's something that virtually everyone can relate to. I particularly
appreciated the 'Key Teaching Messages,' which highlighted the two or three key
points in simple language that you'd want to make sure are clear. I also really
liked the 'Teaching Activities' scattered throughout the book that offer
activities or games that you can use to teach about things such as 'public or
private behaviors.' Couwenhoven also provides several instance of
'troubleshooting'--explaining that, as a sexuality educator, she typically hears
from families when there is a problem. Families currently facing such problems
will appreciate Couwenhoven's practical solutions, while others will appreciate
learning what to do try and prevent them."
-Down Syndrome News (Nat'l Down Syndrome Congress)
"The author of this book is the mother of a teenager with Down syndrome and is also an educator on sexuality. Ms. Couwenhoven's unique background enables her to address sometimes challenging issues that children and adults with Down syndrome experience. The book contains practical ideas for teaching children with Down syndrome about their bodies, puberty and sexuality, giving parents the confidence to speak comfortably about these sometimes difficult topics. This book has a 'parent' feel--it is written in a non-clinical, easy to read style. It is recommended for parents and professionals who have or work with children and adults with Down syndrome.
may have heard Terri present at NADS conferences, and she has also presented at
many national conventions. We have received very positive feedback from several
parents who have read this book--described by one as a 'must read.'"
-NADS News, November/December 2007 (National Association for Down Syndrome)
intended for parents and educators of children with Down Syndrome, Teaching
Children with Down Syndrome about their Bodies, Boundaries, and Sexuality
(Woodbine House, October 2007) is a wonderful resource for parents of all
exceptional children who wish to explore such important issues as abuse
prevention, respecting personal space, understanding privacy norms, showing
appropriate levels of affection and explaining sexual relationships. Written by
Terri Couwenhoven, a certified sexual educator and mother of a child with Down
syndrome, the book blends factual information and practical ideas in an
easy-to-read, non-clinical style. Illustrations of body parts and their
functions and multiple appendices containing valuable teaching materials
compliment this recommended reading for parents and educators interested in
actively preparing their children for the period Beyond the Cocoon."
-Exceptional Family, Winter 2007
"As a certified sex educator and parent to a daughter with Down syndrome, Terri Couwenhoven has both professional expertise and personal experience related to this complex and sensitive topic. She provides practical information about sexual development and presents it with the understanding of one who has "been there" as a parent.
From privacy to puberty, masturbation to marriage, family planning to fallopian tubes, and hygiene to healthy intimacy, this guide addresses issues that other books gloss over or avoid. Using straightforward language and uncomplicated diagrams, it debunks the myths surrounding sex and people with disabilities, and offers direct instruction strategies to help children with intellectual disabilities take care of their bodies and understand their sexual selves. There are also useful chapters on exploitation prevention, and sex education in schools.
At first glance, worksheets and teacher terminology make this book seem more for teachers than parents. However, the information it contains will be valuable to parents who utilize "teachable moments" to interact naturally with children, as Couwenhoven suggests. Couwenhoven's style is effective and easy to follow. She peppers her highly readable text with key points. Marked by easy-to-spot icons, including short pieces she calls Parental Pauses. These thought-provoking questions and comments help parents gain insight into their own views regarding sexuality.
title suggests this book is intended for those caring for children with Down
syndrome, its content is applicable to a wide range of individuals with
cognitive differences. In fact, this guide would be useful for parents of any
child, with or without disabilities, wanting to encourage a healthy sex positive
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